How Feelings of Loss Affect Our Work and Personal Relationships
By Lorna McCarty
Any loss is terrible, be it the loss of a son or daughter, parent or grandparent, aunt, uncle, friend, or spouse. Losing someone you care deeply about is very painful. It is normal to feel emotional and to experience sadness that just seems as though it won’t let go.
Living through the loss of someone dear to us affects everyone who is close to us. When this loss happens our personal world, along with the professional world we have built is shaken.
Recently, in one week’s time, I lost my favorite uncle, and then the very next day after my uncle’s passing, I learned my beloved aunt was on her death-bed and had a very short time to live.
Despite living with these deep losses, I managed to press on, doing my best to continue to keep a normal daily routine. That routine included exercise, household chores, and most importantly making sure to stay true to activities that were meant to continue growing my business.
When we are grieving, one of the first things we often do is to throw ourselves into something that keeps us busy. We want to continue seeing positive results in our own lives, despite admitting how we feel regarding the loss of a loved one.
Covering our grief this way only makes it that much harder to move on normally. Instead, our grief catches up with us, and we experience lows in energy, and the productivity we are usually capable of achieving is gravely affected.
The reality of my own loss brought me to this conclusion: I must take time to feel and work through the loss.
Losing people we love is part of the cycle of life. For those of us who are left behind, we still must bear the grief and manage the pain that affects our relationships with others.
We all contemplate our own mortality. We philosophize on whether or not we have made enough essential contributions to the good of others, and if we were to die tomorrow, we question whether those contributions were enough to make a difference.
Was our work important? Or was our work valuable to others?
• When we are grieving it is important to understand that it is OK to take time from our work goals and instead, make room to grieve in order to return to a life of normalcy.
• When we give ourselves the necessary space to grieve, we also can discern the positive experiences and life lessons we gained from the dear ones we lost.
• It is important to reinvigorate the relationships that we have. This includes both our personal and professional relationships.
• Spend time with family members and tell them that you love them.
• Lean on the people who care about you, even if you take pride in being strong and self-sufficient.
• If you are religious, find solace in your faith.
• Don’t let the emotion of your loss affect the energy that you put into your work.
As an entrepreneur, many businesses begin in the home. Step away when you are stuck in the project you are creating. Get a breath of fresh air, take a walk, or raise your heart rate with an exercise program for 20 to 30 minutes. Then return to work with a renewed, creative spirit.
• If you work outside the home, let your team members know that it’s OK to talk to you about your loss. Answering questions about your loss will help you accelerate the healing process.
We all experience loss, and that loss has the power to affect our personal relationships and the work we bring for the betterment of others.
It will always be important to take time to grieve the loss of a loved one, but remember that those we love who are no longer with us, want us to live our lives fully and with love.
Utilize the energy that is affecting your grieving, and use it to bring joy to the lives of those around you. By implementing positive energy, life will again become rewarding.
I am Lorna McCarty a professional relationship coach that helps couples who are struggling and maybe on the verge of divorce. Are you at the end of your rope and feeling that life is short? You need answers now? I am here to help. Contact me at http://www.phoenixrisingrelationships.com and sign up to receive your free action guide and special bonus and discover why it’s not too late for your happily ever after.
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